I read an article this morning about a family that gave away their 5 year old autistic son. He was on the extreme autism side of the spectrum. The parents were not getting adequate supports, and it became too much for them. A few months later, they heard that their son had been sexually assaulted by a teenager while under the state’s protection. The names of the family were changed in the article.
Reading this article brings out a lot of questions and concerns. In previous articles, I have written about mothers that have killed their autistic child. I have stated that I believe that there is no reasoning that can condone their actions. I have stated that I believe that if a parent can not care for their child, the child should be turned over to the state.
Do I still believe that after reading that article? Yes, I do. What happened to that little boy was horrible. However, I still can not believe that death is better. This is such a hard subject to write about. I prefer to write about the joys of autism, not the nightmares.
I would like to think that I would never relinquish parental rights of my child. I am blessed that my son does not have the extreme behavior issues that many autistic children possess. He is low functioning, but is a joy to be around. I don’t know what I would do if my son had the kind of behavior problems that the 5 year old above has.
It is really sad that there are parents that do not have the support they need to take care of their child. Clearly, love is not always enough. When do you decide that? How do you decide that? I don’t know this couple that surrendered their parental rights, but I feel for them. I don’t judge what they did. I can understand it, though. Some might think they are weak for giving up their child. I think that what they did would require a great deal of inner strength.
After relinquishing their rights, to turn around and find out that their child was abused after the state took over care must have been extremely difficult to come to terms with. How do you go on after that? How do you continue your day to day life? If it was me, I think all of my thoughts would be consumed by those of my child I gave up.
This is so sad. I don’t have any profound insight or advice to offer. I don’t have any answers to this situation. It is what it is. A family in crisis. A child that may be lost and abused under the state’s care. My prayers go out to them all.