It’s been a tough couple of weeks. My niece was in a car accident, and sustained severe injuries. She is making good progress, but will be in the hospital for about two months. She has a head injury, broken shoulder, broken arm, and a few other injuries. She has swelling in her brain. In the last few days, she has started to be able to form words and is trying to do things on her own. Because of her head injury, she is having trouble with coordination, and it’s affecting her control of her emotions. My family has been focused on her, and her recovery.
My sister lives in a different state, so I have not been able to do anything, except pray. I have kept the information about the accident from my children. I think telling my 10 year daughter would upset her, and that she wouldn’t truly understand. I’m not sure how my 14 year old autistic son would react. Since my niece is recovering from her injuries, I think it is best to not discuss things with my children.
I have not talked with my sister. I know she spends most of her time at the hospital, and I know that should be her primary focus. I’ve spent times at the hospital with my son, and talking with people on the phone is difficult. I’ve kept in touch with my parents, getting daily updates.
I feel so bad for my sister. I really want to go down there and help. I know how stressful, and emotionally draining, it is to have a child in the hospital. I also know how difficult it can be to deal with the coordination problems, emotional fluctuations, and communication issues. In time, as the swelling goes down, the coordination and emotion issues will improve. There will be a long period of therapy for my niece to recover use of her arm that was broken.
I also worry about my sister, because she has leaukimia. I worry that she may not be taking care of herself. As a mother, our priority is usually our child. Our health and well-being are put on the back burner, while we care for our child. This worries me with my sister, because not taking care of herself can be extremely harmful to her.
I’m glad my parents are with her, helping to take care of things. I wish I could also help. In the meantime, I’ll continue to pray and talk with my parents on the phone. When things improve some more, I’ll get hold of my sister on the phone and talk with her.