This year has gone by so fast. Yesterday, I had another IEP meeting for my son. He’s 15 now, and the focus is completely different on what his goals should be. We are now looking at having his IEP goals geared towards life skills. He is still getting his general academics in the classroom, they are just done with the class.
His teacher brought up something to me that I’m not sure how I feel about it. At this age, they give the kids a test about their future. Where they want to live, work, etc.. They give the test repeatedly throughout the year, and compare the responses. The one question and answer that concerns me is about living in a group home or living with parents. He has consistently answered that he wants to live in a group home when he becomes an adult.
I have a really big problem with this. Because my son is severely autistic, requires 24/7 one on one care, I have a hard time imagining him in a group home. I’m also scared about that idea of not having him live at home. He’s 15 years old, and we will be going to court in 3 years to be made his legal guardians. Everything will change. But, he will still be able to attend the school he is at until he is 22.
I know that my parents think it would be best to put him in a group home. In the past, I’ve discussed it with my husband, and we both have a really big problem with having him away from us. We have heard about so many bad things that can happen to someone with the kind of delays my son has. He’s safe with us. The idea of placing him into someone else’s care on a long term basis, is really horrifying to me.
One week of school left, and then the kids have the summer off. My daughter has a full schedule for the summer, but not my son. We are still dealing with his ear problems. The only activities we have been able to schedule for him are the outings with his CAP worker. I am hoping for some family fishing trips. I’d love to take him swimming, but he still needs to keep water out of his ear. There are a couple of day camps that he can attend during the summer. I’m going to look into that. This will be a really different summer for us. I’m looking forward to it, and am looking forward to sharing with all of my readers.